For therapists, counselors, coaches and pastors
Your clients already live these mechanics. Now they’ll have words for them.
Relational Mechanics moves the conversation from self-esteem to self-respect. It gives clients plain terms for what happens in their marriages and families, and gives you a structure they can carry between sessions. It’s built to sit alongside the work you already do, not replace it.
White papers, free to read and share
Respect, Fear, and Absence
The core model: how what we respect, fear or withdraw from shapes every relationship.
Coming soon
Value and Values
Why we love what we value, and why respect drives value rather than the other way round.
Coming soon
Shame and the Victim Clause
The fork between guilt and shame, how the victim mentality keeps people from valuing anyone, themselves included, and the victim clause that defends it.
Coming soon
The glossary
Every term in the books, with its dictionary meaning and how the framework uses it, one short page each. Use them with clients, link to them, print them.
What’s available, and what’s coming
| Item | Status |
|---|---|
| White papers and glossary | Free, on this site |
| Book 2, We Love What We Value | Available now |
| Conversations with practitioners on the podcast | Season 1 |
| Client handouts and worksheets | In development. Join the list to hear first. |
Want to be on the podcast, or try this with clients?
Paul wants to hear from people who do this work every day: what holds up, what doesn’t, and what your clients say back. Use the contact form and choose “Practitioner.”
Practitioner updates
New papers, handouts and episodes with practitioners.
Relational Mechanics is an educational framework drawn from lived experience. It is not therapy, diagnosis or treatment, and it doesn’t replace professional care.
